I recently met with clients who got some very bad advice from probably well-meaning but – to be perfectly blunt – clueless friends and family who thought they knew what was best. What happened to them is undoubtedly a lesson for others.
The married debtors have a large and unmanageable amount of credit card debt. A few years ago, one of the debtors was actively employed and making a good living until a work injury changed all that. Now, one of them is in chronic pain, has no income and is currently seeking disability benefits from the Social Security. The injured debtor had a workers compensation claim which was resolved through a $30,000 settlement about 9 months ago. There are children, and there are domestic support obligations.
Because this two-income family had been struggling as a one-income family for a few years, the debtors have been “robbing Peter to pay Paul.” Retirement accounts had been depleted or had loans against them. Credit cards were maxed out. Collectors are calling, and lawsuits have been filed. Before the settlement even arrived, they were thinking about the possibility of having to file bankruptcy.
The Decision-Making
Family and friends urged them not to file bankruptcy. Having not met the family and friends, I assume that they had good intentions and were ultimately well-meaning. None of the family and friends were bankruptcy attorneys. I didn’t ask if the friends and family were aware of this blog.
The debtors have vehicles and only own personal property. The current sole bread winner makes a respectable, but nevertheless modest income in light of their expenses. None of their expenses are extraordinary or raise a specter of bad faith. They seemingly qualify for chapter 7, and since they have no real estate, they could consider electing the federal exemption schemes. Had the debtors elected to file bankruptcy when they received the settlement, the federal exemption scheme would enable them to keep most if not all of the proceeds of the settlement and discharge their remaining credit card obligations. That’s not what happened.
Instead, they took the $30,000 and paid down the credit card debt. It did not get paid off. The credit cards and credit lines did not get closed. The debt was merely lowered. The credit card companies got some of that money. However, had they filed bankruptcy before opting to pay them, the credit card companies would have received nothing – or close to nothing.
I asked them “why didn’t you file bankruptcy back then when you were thinking about it?”
They told me that their friends and family were telling them that they should not file bankruptcy and that they emphasized it: “oh, you don’t want to file bankruptcy!” Apparently they were concerned about stigma and were concerned about being “one of those bankruptcy debtors that doesn’t pay their bills.”
Yet here they were. In my office. Not happy being there. And I’m willing to bet, sick to their stomach because of it (actually, one of them expressed that sentiment). Why? The simple answer is that they now thought of themselves as “one of those bankruptcy debtors who doesn’t pay their bills.” But I do think there maybe another reason.
After the cash was done, many of the credit lines were still open. So if they looked ahead to through the end of the month and saw that they were a few hundred dollars short, they knew where to get it.
And with the settlement, they were able to pay their debts and feel good about paying their debts – which is presumably what their friends and family had in mind when they conveyed their likely less-than-helpful advice. It’s good to pay debts. After all, no one wants to file bankruptcy. No one wakes up one morning thinking “hey…here’s something I haven’t done yet.” But life does not always work out the way we want, hope, expect, and in some cases need it to.
In their case, the credit has run dry. The retirement accounts are empty. And now the settlement is gone. And before me were two people who – like many others – had to struggle with an unexpected change in income, and who tried to do what they thought, and what their friends and family thought, was the right thing to do. But they should have elected to get bankruptcy advice from a bankruptcy attorney rather than bankruptcy advice from well-meaning friends and family more than 9 months ago.
What advice would I have given to them if they saw me 9 months ago? I would have advised them to take the time to explore their personal spending. I would have advised them that with one income earner disabled, they had to adjust their budget…or adjust their income. I would have determined that their credit card debt could be discharged in a 7, and depending on the amount of the settlement, and the value of their other personal property, the settlement proceeds would likely be exempt. I would have told them to stop using credit, to start using cash, and to view the cash as what it was: finite.
Instead, they now know that their personal spending must be adjusted, that very tough decisions need to be made, and some very difficult discussions with friends and family members might be in the foreseeable future. And the most important thing that has changed since they listened to their friends and family: there is no more cash they can tap into when they need that extra few hundred bucks to get them through the month.
For these good people, I think it could played out differently. And I am willing to bet that this realization is what is contributing to that awful feeling in their stomach.
