I was recently chatting with an old friend who was sharing with me her recent trials and tribulations. She is on unemployment – has been for a while - and trying to sell her house. Her house is not priced to sell – but priced in line with what other houses in her neighborhood are going for… and are also not selling. She has also made some regrettable financial and life decisions that have lead her to the place she now finds herself in. It’s not a judgment – it’s more of an observation. Some of what she’s experiencing was avoidable. Some of it – like the unemployment, wasn’t. She asked me for my advice.
As I started offering some suggestions (among them, dropping the price on the house), I could tell she was getting upset. She then took a deep breath and said “you know, I’m not like those people you represent. Those people in bankruptcy.”
There was this period of awkward silence – I don’t think it was particularly long – but it was long enough for me to think something more serious than “really, Blanche. Really?” but not as dramatic as “oh. my. gawd!”‘
“Those people,” I said – and I could feel my eyes widening.
Being good friends, we could tell that we both hit a nerve in each other and we silently retreated to our respective corners. I did not have it in me to say what I wanted to say then.
I do now.
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Rocking On & Moving On: My Take
I’ve been listening to The Moth for several months and recently listened to an episode that I thought my readers could identify with, so I shared it. And as promised, I am sharing my thoughts.
When one is facing bankruptcy – for whatever reason – it’s like facing a financial black hole. It’s dark. It can feel cold and creepy. You feel like it’s sucking you in and you’re not sure what’s going to end up eating you on the other side. And those feelings end up leaving many folks completely and utterly paralyzed with fear. Perhaps paralyzed is not a good word. Perhaps wallowing with fear is a better description.
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